“Robert, please. You don’t understand, no-one does. When a woman makes the choice to marry, to have children; in one way her life begins but in another way it stops. You build a life of details. You become a mother, a wife and you stop and stay steady so that your children can move. And when they leave they take your life of details with them. And then you’re expected move again only you don’t remember what moves you because no-one has asked in so long. Not even yourself.”
Francesca ~ The Bridges of Madison County
I’ve built my own life of details … It’s been years since I’ve seen this movie, but to this day it remains one of my favorites. Not to worry, I’m not looking for love on a bridge, I just like Meryle Streep who plays Francesca. In the movie Francesca is like so many women I know, who have lost a piece of themselves in the “details” of being a wife and mother.
The 1950’s housewife was devoted to her family and the affairs of her household, and for those of us who have stayed at home for a season of life know … this is a noble choice and undoubtedly one of the hardest jobs on the earth. Nowadays there is a new kind of housewife, one who is still devoted to her family and the affairs of her household, but who also wants to work outside the home. I don’t have to tell you … she is tired and drinks way too much coffee, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I adore my family and my career.
I have 4 children + 3 dogs + 1 husband + my business = 1,000,000 details !!!
The details circle through my mind 24 hours a day, they sound something like this …
Photograph for your blog.
Take the dog for his shots.
Take the kid for his shots.
Start a load of laundry.
Post on Facebook, tweet, Pin something… build your brand
Buy tickets to your daughters play.
Answer emails, write those menus, test those recipes.
Buy Michael new socks.
Make sure you clear your schedule for the elementary jog-a-thon.
Sign the homework packet.
Write a chapter for your cookbook.
Find props for the next photo shoot.
Call your mom.
Categorize all your business receipts.
Be nice to your husband.
Don’t eat that.
Are we really out of toothpaste again?
Where is the dog’s ball?
What are you going to make for dinner?
Don’t forget the track meet on Thursday.
I better stop now, before I start crying … Here is my advice for all my modern day housewife friends. Get back to the basics, first things first. Some things should never change.
- Spend time with God.
- Take care of yourself, exercise, and eat breakfast.
- Love your family, put them first.
- Make some Guinness pot roast … it will calm your nerves and your house will smell like home.
- Everything else …