You build a life of details …

“Robert, please. You don’t understand, no-one does. When a woman makes the choice to marry, to have children; in one way her life begins but in another way it stops. You build a life of details. You become a mother, a wife and you stop and stay steady so that your children can move. And when they leave they take your life of details with them. And then you’re expected move again only you don’t remember what moves you because no-one has asked in so long. Not even yourself.”

Francesca ~ The Bridges of Madison County

I’ve built my own life of details …  It’s been years since I’ve seen this movie, but to this day it remains one of my favorites.  Not to worry, I’m not looking for love on a bridge, I just like Meryle Streep who plays Francesca.  In the movie Francesca is like so many women I know, who have lost a piece of themselves in the “details” of being a wife and mother.

The 1950’s housewife was devoted to her family and the affairs of her household, and for those of us who have stayed at home for a season of life know … this is a noble choice and undoubtedly one of the hardest jobs on the earth.   Nowadays there is a new kind of housewife, one who is still devoted to her family and the affairs of her household, but who also wants to work outside the home.  I don’t have to tell you … she is tired and drinks way too much coffee, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.   I adore my family and my career.

I have 4 children + 3 dogs + 1 husband + my business =  1,000,000 details !!!

The details circle through my mind 24 hours a day, they sound something like this …

Photograph for your blog. 

Take the dog for his shots.

Take the kid for his shots.

Start a load of laundry.

Post on Facebook, tweet, Pin something… build your brand

Buy tickets to your daughters play.

Answer emails, write those menus, test those recipes.

Buy Michael new socks.

Make sure you clear your schedule for the elementary jog-a-thon.

Sign the homework packet.

Write a chapter for your cookbook.

Find props for the next photo shoot.

Call your mom.

Categorize all your business receipts.

Be nice to your husband.

Don’t eat that.

Are we really out of toothpaste again?

Where is the dog’s ball?

What are you going to make for dinner?

Don’t forget the track meet on Thursday.

I better stop now, before I start crying …  Here is my advice for all my modern day housewife friends.   Get back to the basics, first things first.  Some things should never change.

  1. Spend time with God.
  2. Take care of yourself, exercise,  and eat breakfast.
  3. Love your family, put them first.
  4. Make some Guinness pot roast … it will calm your nerves and your house will smell like home.
  5. Everything else …
10 comments… add one
  • Cristina March 21, 2012, 9:09 pm

    I’m out of breath just reading the multi-tasking list!

    It is an art-form/skill to stay on top of all the daily details…and it is a labor of love. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing a great post, Louise!

    • Chef Louise Mellor March 24, 2012, 11:59 pm

      labor of love… i like that

  • Dorothy at Shockingl March 21, 2012, 10:27 pm

    Amen, sistah.

    • Chef Louise Mellor March 25, 2012, 12:00 am

      Dorothy- I know you get it!

  • Presley's Pantry March 22, 2012, 12:09 am

    I thought I was the only one who thought in bundles….. I get tired thinking about what I have on my plate sometimes. INSANE work for us mommy worker bloggers, who also do video. Cheers to you my friend for all you get done! xoxoxo

  • edie March 22, 2012, 3:19 pm

    Love it! So true – especially the holey sock photo!

    • Chef Louise Mellor March 24, 2012, 11:59 pm

      edie- the next day he lost his shoe at school??? kicked it over the fence… new shoes of course

  • sippitysup March 23, 2012, 1:51 am

    The answer is so simple. Forget socks and let him go barefoot. GREG

    • Chef Louise Mellor March 24, 2012, 11:58 pm

      that is the perfect “guy” response

  • Lentil Breakdown April 2, 2012, 5:07 am

    This proves that if I had children, I would be in the women’s prison today. Thanks for clarifying!

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